You will find a lot of my work is through the Narrative Therapy lens, which uses storytelling, so.. here is a bit of mine:
I would consider my soft start into this type of work as a teenager. I took jobs as a tutor, camp counselor, and a classroom teacher. There were many important lessons for me in what I now refer to as “Meeting the client where they are at.” I saw my role as needing to be adaptive and supportive, while trying to encourage positivity, participation, or success. Without these experiences, I do not think I would be as patient or empathetic as I am today.
When I started college in 2005, I was intent on pursuing Engineering in college, as a self-identified math and rational type. During this time, however, I started to have doubts about the path I was on. I entered a period of questioning. I didn’t know it at the time, but I had to evaluate where life was taking me. After a few years of study, I withdrew from college to do some “soul searching.”
Journaling became an important tool in my self-discovery journey, and is something I highly encourage for those doing insight work. Journaling helped me put thoughts into words, and forced me to clarify ideas.
I would also give a major shout out to family, friends, mentors, and therapists along the way. Without outside perspective, we become susceptible to blind spots within the echo chamber of our own thoughts and opinions.
I was able to boil down some of my occupational aspirations: Critical Thinking, Independence, and Altruism. This would eventually lead me towards pursuing a career as a Therapist.
In 2015, I began working on my Master’s of Arts in Psychology from Antioch University Los Angeles. At this time, I also began working with clients in a clinical setting. Initially, I worked in a community health setting with low income clients, on a “sliding scale,” to ensure affordability and accessibility. My clients then included individuals, couples and families from the greater Los Angeles area.
Eventually, I sought new types of work, and transitioned into Dual Diagnosis; the intersection of mental disorder and substance abuse. Clients here came from nationwide, and were notoriously “high risk.” I worked in halfway homes, detoxes, PHP, and IOP programs over the course of the growing opioid epidemic. I’ve worked with clients affected by homelessness, psychosis, legal issues, domestic violence, eating disorders, and a wide variety of traumas. While absolutely challenging, I found myself willing and driven to help people get their lives back on track. I worked with individuals, couples, involved families, and ran treatment groups routinely. I gained a lot of dynamic wisdom, met incredible people, and sharpened my craft during my 5+ years in this part of the field.
After many hoops to jump through, I became fully licensed in June of 2020, where I adapted to the Covid-19 climate by switching to the work-from-home format of telehealth. Today, I reside in San Diego, and work with clients California-wide.
The challenges that people bring into session are quite diverse; Depression, Anxiety, Grief, Anger, Apathy, Loneliness, Shame, Fear, Relational Issues, Career Issues.
While there is a lot of subjectivity in what people need from therapy, I believe we all have fundamental baseline needs for good/better mental and emotional wellness:
•to feel strong and confident in our bodies.
•to find activities and purpose that is sufficiently challenging, interesting, and meaningful.
•to feel loved by and connected with the people and world around us.
•to be at peace and find joy.
I consider myself to be philosophical, non-traditional and humorous by nature, but look to boil things down into simplified, pragmatic, and actionable wisdoms.
Ultimately, I want to see people succeed in their ventures, and I see my therapist role as a sort of guide, cheerleader, ally, or sometimes, just a witness.
Thanks for reading.
a bit more personal...
I wanted to share some other parts of my life, as they may elude to some of my niche or specialized knowledge.
Gaming and internet culture
Since the days of dial up, I had an instant fascination for puzzles, riddles, and particularly, games. I just find them tremendously stimulating: theory, deduction, strategy, competition, teamwork, probabilities, luck. As a self-identified thinking type, it gave me a lot to think about.
While athletics was also an interest, online gaming became a stronger attraction, and a large part of my adolescence. Playing with real life friends, and eventually new online friends, created a platform for social relationships, with unique dynamics. Being a part of this community has taught me valuable lessons about thinking outside the box of what a relationship is, and who you might be speaking to. It’s been fascinating to watch this initially invisible sub-culture make it’s way into the mainstream in such a short time-span. And I expect it will continue to be growingly prevalent to our future.
Working as a therapist, a client’s stuckness or hurt is a sort of puzzle to me. I try to deconstruct and understand what’s happening. I look for patterns or reoccurring themes. What is working, and what is not? If you are not reaching your desired potential, with genuine curiosity and love, I want to understand why. How can we improve your game?
Fire and Flow Arts
A subculture in its own right, fire and flow arts is a movement based discipline and art form I have been practicing since 2012 (which, by no coincidence, coincides with my pursuit in psychology). Fire spinning can be technical, performative, mischievous, and scary at times. But ultimately, I fell in love with it because it became a tool for self-expression.
Psychotherapy is self-expression through the medium of language (“the talking cure"). However, we communicate in many other ways. Through passions and hobbies, we are communicating something about ourselves and our values. You might even call it… therapeutic.
I have worked with all sorts of artists, athletes, tinkerers, collectors, entrepreneurs, animal/plant lovers, gamers.. the list goes on. Whether you are professional or amateur is of little significance. I find that learning about your relationship with your activities of interest reveal important parts of who you are and how you live. I try to promote and emphasize a non-judgemental environment so I can truly get to know what you’re about. Maybe you would be willing to teach me something?
…okay, no more about me for now. I am generally friendly and open, but therapy is ultimately about you.